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We’re walking to the station in the morning, making our way to our place of work. We see far down walking up a kid by themselves. The strongest part of us starts to panic in the realization that because of how others have tainted the simple and completely neutral act of showing what love is to youngers, by saying “Hi!”, “Have a great day at school!” “Hey, High five, have a great day today!”. Now we fear the connotation of greeting a kid, and what others might think of us, so much the loving sharing goes away from nurturing an adult in development, whom we’ve known from ancient stories, needs a town to grow and make them whole, to become fear-based avoidance.
The Importance of Unconditional Love
Children need to be able to see unconditional love and not only from the small groups of people they share life with in proximity. They need to see it from strangers to have them realize they’re part of a bigger group, which is the Human Kind.
A Shift in Developmental History
We’re at a tipping point in the developmental history of the human race. We stopped considering everything we were, once we grew up. All the dreams, the infinite hope, the most genuine compassion for the next person and the effect of not receiving unconditional love the little times we didn’t; nowadays being apathetic is the norm, we genuinely don’t know how to be in a community, we’re losing the skill of community, from being out of practice from the first very day we took a breath on this earth.
Perception from a Child’s Perspective
Let’s also consider the other side to the coin, as from the grown-up perspective we might just be preserving our reputation, in fear… but still just about our reputation. When we look at it from the child’s perspective, (for child I include anyone up to the age of 18), and what they must be thinking, simply from the understanding of what we were thinking when younger, and how we dramatized on every little thing we experienced, when we saw every reason reinforcing the belief of not being good enough, honestly they must feel so unloved.
Failure to Treat the Next Generation Right
We’re not treating the next generation right, like at all. We’ve substituted the way they would have needed to be treated in order to fully mature into loving adults, from feeling part of a family, part of an open and accepting community, feeling in peace with themselves from having caring and supportive individuals in their surroundings.
Impact of Technology on Childhood
These days as soon as they’re out of our wombs, we instantly strip them of the capacity to be present with a person, by giving them toys as distraction, over giving them our time and affection, not to even touch the tip of the iceberg on technology and childhood.
False Expectations from Media
We’re teaching our kids flat versions of human beings, not really understanding the difference between the two, we’re having them learn the lessons of life from Peppa Pig and all of her friends at Disney, creating false expectations for kids who don’t know any better.
The Importance of Human Connection
A kid can’t rationalize on why every time they feel the need for a hug, a kiss, any form of human connection, through crying and yelling, they don’t have the capacity just yet to rationalize why we hand them a tablet or our phone to play with. We don’t exactly know what they need in that spare moment in time, hence why we can’t be playing Russian roulette with empire offspring’s, we don’t know exactly what we’re responding to, though what we do know, is that human connection will always be the answer no matter what.
The Risk of Disconnected Human Beings
Imagine if every time that you said I want love, you get handed a device, wouldn’t you start thinking the device is the way you get love back?! Think y’all! Help us avoid having an actual zombie apocalypse of dis-sensitized human beings, killing each other from the lack of empathy and compassion developed towards another human being, as they spent majority of their first 10 years in front of screens, who are too close to reality for them to sense the difference, because their parents were too busy dealing with outside stresses, they forgot the beautiful things in life are medicine and happen to be experienced perfectly fine in community.
The Goal of Interactions
The goal today in interactions seems to be more about proving yourself rather than finding understanding within each other. Confusing priorities.
The Importance of Conscious Parenting
Everything looks more adorable when they’re small, and with that we simply forget to pay attention to all the concepts, values, behaviors we’re teaching our kids. It’s imperative if you don’t want to be mother to a psychopath or sociopath, to a murderer, to an abuser, to a pedophile, to a rapist, to all those branded disciplines in life some decide to partake. Is that what you want for yourself and your future legacy?
Now… Imagine a world where a simple “good morning” to a child on their way to school is the norm. This friendly interaction, though small, sends a powerful message: “You are seen, you are valued, and you are part of something bigger than yourself.”
Here are some ways we can cultivate this kind of positive community:
- Start small: A friendly greeting, a smile, or offering to help a child tie their shoe can make a big difference.
- Organize community events: Host block parties, park clean-ups, or volunteer opportunities where adults and children can interact naturally.
- Lead by example: Show your own children how to interact respectfully with others, including children they don’t know.
- Support parent education programs: Promote workshops on topics like positive communication, building social skills, and responsible technology use for children.
- Revitalize community centers: Create safe spaces where children can learn, play, and connect with caring adults and peers.
Technology can also be a tool for good. Educational apps, video calls with distant relatives, and online communities can enrich children’s lives. The key is to ensure technology complements, not replaces, real-world social interaction.
By fostering a culture of kindness and connection, we can create a world where children feel loved, supported, and empowered to reach their full potential. This positive shift benefits everyone, not just children, by building a stronger and more compassionate community.
Thank you for joining me on this transformative odyssey. Until next time, may we continue to strive towards being better humans, one authentic connection at a time. Peace.
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