People give great advice—for where they are.
And terrible advice for where they’ve never been.
That’s the part no one says out loud.
Because advice isn’t universal—it’s positional. It comes from a stage, a lived threshold, a level of expansion someone has actually embodied. And once they stabilise there, they start speaking as if that level is the level. As if what worked for them must now work for everyone.
It doesn’t.
Because if you haven’t surpassed a stage, or at the very least reached its edge, you don’t have the range to guide someone beyond it. You can only speak from what you know—and what you know becomes a ceiling when you try to apply it to someone operating outside of your field.
That’s where generalising becomes harmful.
“Start small.”
“Be realistic.”
“Take your time.”
All of these can be correct—for a certain stage. But applied to someone who is not operating from that stage, they become limitations disguised as wisdom. They shrink what doesn’t need shrinking. They slow what doesn’t need slowing.
And people follow it, because it sounds safe.
But safety isn’t always alignment.
If we’re going to give advice that actually transfers, it has to be tangible. Clear. Lived. Rooted in reality—but also carrying its mirror of ethereality. Because what we see externally is only half of it. The internal movement, the unseen expansion, the alignment of thought, identity, and direction—that’s the other half.
Yin and yang.
You can’t pass one without the other.
If someone only speaks from structure without expansion, they trap you in rigidity. If they only speak from expansion without structure, they leave you floating without form. And most advice leans too heavily on one side because the person giving it hasn’t integrated both.
So we stay stuck in one moving along—never meeting.
Something has to match.
Not forcefully. Not prematurely. But accurately.
Because real progression happens when the internal and external align at the same level. When what you know, what you’ve lived, and what you’re building all speak the same language.
And that kind of alignment is rare—not because it’s impossible, but because it requires people to outgrow their own comfort before advising others.
Most won’t.
So they advise from where they are.
And I’m not interested in that.
I’m willing to wait for what matches.
While everyone else rushes to speak, to guide, to position themselves as knowing—I’ll stay in observation until the advice meets the level it claims to address. Until the person giving it has actually been there, not just imagined it, not just theorised it.
Because growth isn’t something you talk people into.
It’s something you recognise when it’s real.
And if no one around me can match that yet—then I wait.
Not out of lack.
But out of precision.
-write about how others have great advicces for the stage at which they are,, but terrible advices to give others that haven’t surpassed their stage, nor gotten close to it, that’s why geenralising things is harmful. we eother give tangible clear examples, lived in reality withtheir mirror of “ethereality”(keep the word), we won’t be able to pass the yin yang, we will forever be one moving along. Something has to match and I’m willing to wait for it where no one else that can is willing to act on their growth.
Reverse psychology is beautiful you know. How one could have you take out what they think they need to hear to salvage themselves… incredible. Not my first time saying it, this time not about me.
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some think outside the box of illusions and some of reality. I love the delusion of those who think outside reality. they make it look so real and effortless. No real context, no real inner chatter. No names. No proof….
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